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dnxit14-Sep-20 6:56
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Nelek14-Sep-20 8:12
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First of all, I am not alone with the kids, so it is not exactly the same, but anyways...

Many things I would have said were already said, so I'll try to not repeat them.

The most difficult part for me is to not take it personally when they explore limits. I know they are not being evil, but I know for sure too that they are doing things on purpose. It is their job, to see how far they can tense a string before it breaks.

So... be patient, be reeeeeeaaaallllyyyyy patient.
If you are not, learn how to be it. I am still on it, but I notice that the improvements pay off.

Another thing I think it is very important is to be loyal to your principles and be consequent in your decissions. If today is a "no", that should stay a "no" until thee situation changes, and when it happens, then explain why the change of situation has brought a change of opinion.
Give reasons for what you do or decide, they learn to argue pretty fast and the sooner you involve them in the reasoning process, the better.

Let them explore and give them certain autonomy (being alone, you won't have any other choice), but within the limits you set.
By the way... Yes they are kids, but NO, they are not dumb.
Avoid baby speech and things like that. Talk with them adapted to a kid, but talk properly, call the things by its correct name (there will be still enough "wuf wuf" or "miaow" in the process).
M.D.V. Wink | ;)

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