I like not having a life. It means I get to live like I like.
Roger Allen - Sonork 100.10016 Strong Sad: Clever I am? Next to no one.
Undiscovered and soggy.
Look up. Look down. They're around.
Probably laughing. Still, bright, watery.
Listed among the top. Ten.
Nine. Late night. Early morn.
Early mourn. Now I sleep.
Not to get too deep on this but it depends on whose perspective you judge from.
If you asked my co-workers, family or the couple of flesh-and-blood friends* I have, they will say my social life is on par with a nudist in Mormon territory.
If you asked FHM, GQ and Playboy I would be cast as a null object in the social namespace. PaulWatson.GetSocialLife(); : Object reference not set to an instance of an object.
But if you asked me "Paul, are you happy with your social life?" I would say "Very, Bob."
My social life just happens to not fit the norm. I do spend a lot of time behind this CRT and here on CP but I talk to a lot of people, interact with a billion cultures and am saturated by ideas and discussions from every corner of the globe.
My friends are flung from New York to Tazmania to Cebu to Ireland to Botswana to Berlin to London to Tierra del Fuego. They range from 16 year olds to 66 year olds. They do everything from photography to developing to fashion to writing to packing shelves to design to drinking beer on their porch all day.
We discuss everything from that evil man Bush to the power of Visual Basic to idealism to philosophy to movies to music to what colour underwear she is wearing (black).
But no, according to society a social life means going out every night, getting hammered, talking about the weather, who is shagging who and what Posh and Becks** are up to.
I know most of you know better, that cliquey society is not a social life but someone forgot to tell the great unwashed.
So I don't feel bad admitting to no social life according to convention. Call it dellusion, call it denial, I am happy with my social life as it is and that is what counts.
Are the people who read and live FHM and GQ really happy with theirs?
* Because the rest of you are all make believe until I actually meet you, kapiche?
** Or is that the beer?
Christopher Duncan quoted: "...that would require my explaining Einstein's Fear of Relatives"
I do enjoy a good night out clubbing, I must admit. I don't go for the conversation, I go to get hammered and dance to the phat beats*. Certainly is not a way to advance friendship or meet new people (the cold light of the next day reveals that for what it is).
* I hope I said that right. Would that person who has a Great Social Life please comment
Paul Watson wrote: Are the people who read and live FHM and GQ really happy with theirs?
Probably not - I think people who read magazines like that are looking for a Lifestyle to belong to. A lot of things try to sell themselves as being a necessary part of the Lifestyle that a person wants.
I say "Bugger that". I'll make my own Lifestyle decisions, and be a pain in the arse for market-segmenters everywhere
But then again I shop for most of my clothes at Marks and Spencers, a retailer better known for being middle aged and sensible, rather than where ever it is the trendy people go (but being 6'4 and mildly overweight isn't trendy as it is, therefore they don't sell anything I can physically wear anyway). I can't and won't do Lifestyle.
But I do have what I consider to be a good social life - I have good friends from university I keep in close contact with, and good friends in my local area - mainly from the theatre group I'm involved with.
I also enjoy being on my own - does that make me anti-social? I don't think so myself, but some would cast me in that position.
So I won't vote in the poll, because I don't think I'm a fit for any of the answers.
Matt Newman wrote: The worst part is its the truth.
There's nothing wrong with that, Matt! Take pride in the fact that not everyone can rapidly recite the first 20 elements of the periodic table in perfect order without blinking. (I'm not the only one who can do that, and talks about it, right?)