I voted poor even if I am married. After all,
my wife and I, together, put in 13 days of work per week (out of a possibility of 14)
Not to say that we work together. We don't. Still, we tend to get as much quality time together as poossible. But since I work a lot, I get pretty tired pretty often, so, even if I am with
my wife, the quality time is not so great - we tend to do some of the simpler, passive activities, like watching movies and all that.
Then there are activities with others. My life is full enough with work + wife so that I usually don't run after others, but my wife does and wants me around. We don't get enough time to see others.
Then my dog wants us to walk with it, but I am always so tired, I hardly ever do it.
I'd be interested to know what criteria people measure their social life by.
I spend more time during work hours chatting to people on MSN than co-workers. 3-4 weekends may go by in a row without meeting up with a single friend.
However, I am very happily married. Brend and I were friends before we were lovers, and have known each other since teenagers. Our relationship is based upon friendship and respect for each others opinions in conversation. For that reason we don't miss other company In fact, weekends are generally spent trying to get away from other people - hiking, camping, etc.
So yes, the number of people in my social life may be "sparse", but I'm extremely satisfied with the company. I feel no lack. Thus, I voted that I have an excellent social life.
I am interested to hear what others think about this. Do I have my measurement of social happiness all wrong in your opinion?
Look at the world about you and trust to your own convictions. - Ansel Adams
I don't know, I'm not married, but if you're hanging around the same person all the time, I imagine you'd eventually run out of stores to tell. Say the the average guy has about 50 good stores to tell, so that would last about a year, then it would be all repeats after that. Same goes for jokes.
I don't agree with that. The stories of the "past" are even hard to run out of. I don't think you can tell someone every single thing you've ever done or would just for kicks. So perhaps yes the stories that are "high" on the list, stories that may not require any context to enjoy but there are other stories I'm sure that would come up.
For example you go to a place and something happens there that reminds you of something that happened a long time ago. I think you would always have those little stories. Also, it depends on your interests. It's not like life stops or anything, perhaps you talk about current events, things happened at work, something you saw on the way home, there's plenty of things especially if you have the same interests.
The same goes for the jokes, perhaps the jokes that don't need a context but if you're funny you usually don't stop being funny or come up with new material. The funniest jokes are usually those that have a context and may not be funny to a 3rd party. Something that happens while he's camping and he makes a joke. He didn't say he quit doing things, he just quit hanging out with other people and that's fine.
I'm not married either, but I can see if someone has found the right person that's how it could be for them. Everyone's different. I see your point too, but it's really a static point as if everything froze after he got married (And, I'm sure that can happen to people too )
Yes, I would say anyone who has a husband/wife/significant other, you ought to be voting for "OK social life" or better. If you have a poor or no social life in this situation, what kind of a relationship is that???
"Fish and guests stink in three days." - Benjamin Franlkin
Megan Forbes wrote: So yes, the number of people in my social life may be "sparse", but I'm extremely satisfied with the company. I feel no lack.
Same here. I have one really good friend, and we do everything together. However, we aren't very good at "socialization". When we have to be around other people, we usually talk about programming, hacking, webdesign, and physics. Any other people within hearing range usually just shake their heads in pity, and ask themselves if my friend and I are speaking English.
Do I have a social life? Not really in the manner of many friends, but in the quality of friends, I would be nearly unsurpassed.
Megan Forbes wrote: Do I have my measurement of social happiness all wrong in your opinion?
Nope. Important thing is you enjoy it or not. So you are right. If you have one great person which you enjoy with him , that great for all of yyour life. . I really get happy when I read your post althought my social life sucks.
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